In this brave new digital world, where we select potential mates from a digital domain based on images and profile, it seems that a whole new host of confusion has developed. There is an endless supply of options in a fickle fantastical environment and when those options don’t work out then there is always another and another. With that in mind, originally couples would date, adapt and work out their differences. In many cases they developed acceptance, tolerance and patience. So what has happened in the digital era? The individual has become digitally disposable and replaced instantly by a new dating avatar.
Consider how quickly change takes place in our environment and this is happening within the digital dating world. Numerous people I have dated and friends I know can have up to ten people on the go all at the same time. They are working by numbers. The question then becomes if you keep eating chocolate how can you taste a good one? This applies to dating, after a while one loses sight of what is good and who is right for them. It is the cliché of not being able to see the wood for the dating trees. With all this disposability then where is the chase? Is there a chase or is it too easy to move on? What is it that makes people worthwhile? How does a man demonstrate his worthiness? What makes you decide on a person when they could be deciding on ten others? In truth, constant rejection and repeating dating cycles of disposability is damaging. Why should anyone have to chase to prove they are worthy? One of the beautiful women I worked with became so desperate because she had not heard from a person she dates that she phoned a mobile company to check whether the whole network was down. Yes!!! Imagine!!! With this in mind, I suggest a new approach. Don’t chase, have faith in your value – make an effort; however, you know if someone is half hearted. I would say after two unanswered texts – do not humiliate yourself or chase. Also for those ladies who are likely to become psycho and get very easily tempted – delete the number and maintain your dignity. Endless texting will not endear you to anyone. The truth is – if someone values you they will make an effort. If both parties make and effort then there is the potential for a proper relationship.
Chasing is boring, why not try a new approach - develop yourself, love yourself and know you are good enough. Be out in the environment, shine and talk to people. People gravitate to those who genuinely like themselves. When you love who you are – not in a vain way – in an unconditional way – then your whole demeanour states you are ready and deserving of love. Strangely, when you reach that point you do not need to attract it externally and that is often when it comes along.
Think of all the good relationships you have had – how did they arrive in your life? I am sure that life is an intelligent force. There are people around us all the time – there are so many potential people to meet, if you are open and friendly. You don’t have to hide behind a screen. Plus the only way you truly know if you are attracted is how your body feels. Tick lists from endless profiles result in discontent. I am not saying that people do not meet through the internet; however, unless the new potential partner removes their profile once you reach the second stage, then there will be endless temptation. There is always someone better. My advice is be content with what you have now accept being happy whether you are in a relationship or single. Stop chasing people who are not reciprocating, it is a waste of energy and if you do need to use the internet accept you have entered a sausage factory filled with endless digital dreams. Ultimately love comes without a chase – it is a mutual unconditional attraction – there should be no chase.
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