The Nature of People - What is your Nature?

The Nature of People...

 

 

 

 This week has been a week of learning because we all respond to situations in very different ways according to our natures. Consider this situation: It is Christmas and your team mates are all off along with your manager and the only person left is you. However you look at the list of items you are scheduled for on that day and you see that you have not got a single break or chance to go the bathroom in eight hours. How do you react?

This is the situation some of my colleagues have been stuck in and it was actually fascinating watching the response. Some people just got on with it and accepted it was just one day. Another said they were going to phone in sick. Another simply said they would avoid dealing with the situation. Where as me, the usual rebel, would go to the source and demand alternatives whilst referencing H.R. policies. This is when I realised that there was something going on.

During the week I could not help think about people's natures because some of the people I work with are amazingly intelligent and hard workers yet they are so laid back. When I say laid back nothing affects them. They could be in a meeting room and a hornets nest might randomly drop in and there would be no arm flailing; instead, they would get on with their work.

The way some people were so calm perplexed me. So much so that I even asked whether inside they were as calm as they were on the outside and the answer was yes. They just said it was their nature. It was then I realised my 'nature' was firey, energetic, motivated and confrontational. I had spent years trying to suppress what I was; however, it was my nature and that made me passionate, driven, direct and forceful. Then something popped into my head. One of my good friends, a therapist, had been to a Chinese elemental workshop on the nature of the five elements that make up people's natures. You may well find the below interesting because it might provide an insight into your elemental nature along with the benefits and the hindrances. Enjoy!

Fire Natures

The Magician or Wizard who Socialise, Network and Market
Fire is masculine and known as yang in character. The direction that is moves is upwards and energetically expansive. Fire natures are associated with persistence, strength, power and passion yet one of their main hindrances is restlessness.

The character of fire is warm, excitable and filled with enthusiasm and creativity. The negative expression turns up in impulsive behaviours, aggression and impatience. Fire drives you to find the passion to create your life's calling. It is filled with joy, laughter, humour, mischief and playfullness. To identify a fire nature you will notice charm, humour, mischief, excitability, huge energy and drive. They  hate being bored, adapt to change and seem to charge through life at an unprecedented rate. The only thing they really hate is hate because that is their negative emotion which is counter-balanced by joy.

Earth Natures

Negotiators, mediators and recruiters
Ying and Yang balance within the Earth nature. Earth combines both elements of masculine and feminine. The energetic motion moves inwards and centres because it a stabilising energy that conserves. Earth natures are thoughtful, stable, patient, practical and hard working. They are nurturing, help others grow and bring harmony and stability to most situations. Their downfall is stubbornness, selfishness and self-centredness yet their ambition, responsibility and capacity for long-term planning is a nature that is certainly needed. These natures are nurturing, warm, kind and supportive even if they have difficulty establishing boundaries because they can be taken advantage of. This results in worry with is counter balanced by empathy.

Metal Natures                  

The transformer, the alchemist, the lawyer and the judge
Yin is the dominant character in Metal natures, which is feminine. The inward motion of the energy is contracting. The metal element embodies the crystals and mineral realm too. Metal natures enable the breath of life and connect to that experience to enable understanding of self-worth. Metal natures carry deep respect others and themselves. They are ambitious, focused and have clarity of thought; yet metal is a rigid structure, so can be unyielding, belligerent, powerful whilst being determined. The metal natures like minimalism, order, cleanliness and are well contained. They don't like to admit they can be controlling, a little too forceful and set in their ways. The good that comes from this is self-reliance although they tend to handle their problems alone. Their pride will stop them asking for help. Their inner sadness arrives in the form of grief which is offset by a huge amount of courage.

Water Nature

The idealist, philosopher, psychologist, thinker, innovator and entrepreneur
The stillness of the feminine energy that moves downwards is revealed in the conserving water nature. Water is filled with intelligence, adaptability and wisdom. Water is soft and yet fluid in motion yet can be incredibly powerful in terms of floods and storms.

Water natures reveal great resources in terms of tranquil energy, time, and financial ordering. There is a calm approach to financial handling which is neither misery or spontaneous in spending. Water is insightful, still, full of wisdom and rejuvenating which provides mental possibility that result in innovation. Great ideas come from calm tranquillity.

Depending on how the water nature responds to the world, they are usually a little eccentric, a bit reserved and very creative. They can come across as calculating, introverted and not that bothered. The thing is they are watching and evaluating because fear permeates their being yet calm tranquillity off-sets this.    

  

Wood natures

Adventurers, Pioneer,  strategists, directors and analysts.

The dominant energy here is  yang masculine where strength is combined with flexibility. The nature of wood unites generosity, idealism and leadership. The wood nature leads, takes charge and reveals a determined plan of action. The journey of wood seeks to grow, expand and establish its stability. Wood is sensual and evolving and demonstrates its prowess in spring time.

The nature of wood is assertive, direct and driven. They often have a temper, are outgoing, love socialising but a little insensitive. They do have a tendency to put their foot in it. The Wood natures suffer from the negative emotion anger which can be countered with kindness. One of their main virtues is their patience combined with altruism.                                                        

Well this was quite a finding for me. Of course this is not a definitive guide because we are all made up of all the elements. However; I hope you enjoyed it. If you have any comments please post below.

Link to Ruby Allure books on Audible:

http://www.audible.com/search/ref=a_hp_tseft?advsearchKeywords=Ruby+allure&filterby=field-keywords&x=0&y=0

 

http://www.audible.com/pd/Fiction/Love-Hunt-Dating-Game-Audiobook/B015G4ICYA/ref=a_search_c4_1_1_srImg?qid=1448187651&sr=1-1

Come on admit it - as much as we deny it - we ladies like a good love hunt.

We have tick lists, ideals, and we hunt in high-heeled packs. Of course, we're all hunting for that elusive right man who ticks every box and even has tidy nostril hair. Okay maybe not you, but you know other ladies who love the hunt.

Well, it's time for Eva and Gracie to love hunt, and their "targets" are rich men - the golden sperm. Such exciting escapades would provide the pair with entertaining discussions during their dull office hours - or so they thought. What they did not anticipate was the discovery of the "booby man"; humorous but very hard truths about wealth, themselves, power; and the RichIdiot.com phenomenon.

The question remains: can love really be hunted?

 

 

http://www.audible.com/pd/Fiction/Love-Hunt-II-The-Love-Game-Audiobook/B0176Z9Y08/ref=a_search_c4_1_7_srImg?qid=1448187651&sr=1-7

The Love Hunt has returned. Gracie is back on the dating horse after a huge fall in her first tick-list-tastic love hunt.

Her new dating adventures take her and Eva into the depths of "the love game".

In the meantime, Eva, the ultimate Russian gold digger, has come to the conclusion that her poor "village idiot boyfriend" will never be enough. He will certainly not pay off her accumulating debts. She needs a rich man, and that means rich idiot dating.

In The Love Game, Eva and Gracie travel the journey of extreme love learning. On the way, they will discover their love and lust lists, their intrinsic issues, and experience some hilarious and jaw-dropping dates in pursuit of the wealthy ideal.

All of this in the pursuit of love.

The Love Hunt II is on!

Another Letter to 'Take All The Credit' for OUR work - The Rebellion is in Full Swing!

To my Dear Office 'Take All The Credit', it seems that the very fact that I have shared your existence with the world has had a strange knock-on effect and people want to share their stories about how they dealt with people like you in their office or work place. You are a universal entity that everyone knows exist. What's more, by sharing your escapades with the world has increased my book sales. So thank you for that.

 

So I would like to share my continued rebellion, which I don't think you have figured out. You see you know that I am a hard worker. It is in my nature. You also know that I can't say no to a challenge, it is the athlete in me. Yes it is an unfortunate trait, yet, since you 'delegated' your work to me and claimed it as your own, something shifted. In fact my rebellion has provided its own challenge. What a beautiful challenge it is. You see when you emailed me yesterday afternoon demanding me to do a full analysis by the following morning for your meeting you noticed that I said no. That was the first time in nearly two years. Oh that was satisfying but I did have to go for a walk and have a chat with myself about not giving in. You know I am reliable and am usually up for the challenge. You love to play on that - especially when I am leaving for the weekend. What is worse is that I would have worked late and provided you with something spectacular.

I have noticed that people who take all the credit play on hard working natures and prey upon those who seek to be liked. You know who the walk-overs are and who will not stand up to you. It is a kind of corporate bullying. You also know what to say to your hard workers and when it comes to bonus time your perfect patter transforms from 'we & our' sentences to 'I and my'.

So yesterday I realised you were bemused by my big No! Especially when I advised you I had more important projects that were priority. Some of them are fantastic. My favourite, and excuse my language, is 'Project Fuck Off To Those Who Take All The Credit', 'Project We Are Going To Say No at the Last Minute' and 'Project INNOVATE'. I will share more with you on that last one another time.

 

Now I want you to know that it isn't just you 'Mister I Take All The Credit' - I am making sure your female equivalent  is receiving the same treatment. She recently received a bottle of Champagne for all the effort on the project she achieved completely by herself. Well four of my team members were dumbfounded since they had actually created the whole thing and she said she had worked on it alone. She has a big learning on the way: the people who did all the work are also going to say no to working with her - commonly called amongst us 'no, no and definitely no!' Guess which project that one is.

So my final little confession of the day is that you left your screen unlocked, what a shame. We could have emailed the head of the corporation saying that you had handed your notice in because you had clearly fallen in Love With him. Instead we came up with something far better and I cannot take all the credit for this. We cancelled and re-booked your 'Continuous Improvement' meeting where you take all of our ideas and tell the management they are yours, and invited some rather interesting characters. I have to say it was a real joy. We all loved watching your face in that confined glass meeting room with the other 'Office Take All The Credit'. I guess you weren't expecting to continuously improve with all 'The Office Stinkers' from around the office. We had two flatulent types and three 'we don't know what shower gel or shampoo is'. Amazing! Oh it was wonderful: five really stinky people in a confined space and the 'STINKER MANIFESTO POWERPOINT ON A HUGE SCREEN.' Of course you only read the title once it was on screen because we named the file 'Continuous Improvement', which it was: it was a stinkacious improvement! Oh how very satisfying!

Anyway I have to thank you Mister I Take All The Credit because you have fuelled my rebellious nature and helped my compulsive need to efficiently complete projects before deadlines. What you don't realise is my first letter to you literally brought thousands of people to my blog, many have worked with people like you. The general consensus of opinion is that your type last about two years maximum and then are either found out or move roles to prey upon other decent hard working people.


Other than that, my news is my books are selling well. I know you don't have a clue that I am an author because you don't take interest in those who do the work, which makes it even more amusing. Oh, and you know what? It seems people found the Office Types in the Office Zoo very real, that is because they are real and based on real people like you. After my little letter to you at the weekend the LOVE HUNT books suddenly had a beautiful sales surge. I guess it is because the story is about what goes on in the office when two women chat over email about their dating escapades. Without you and watching the office dynamic then the Love Hunts, Money Farm and Office Zoo would never have existed because I needed somewhere to direct the bizarre happenings, odd observations and bonkers behaviours. So you being a complete dick is literally perfect. As I have said before flowers grow from shyte and I am looking forward to seeing where a flower emerges from on you (probably the end of your nose, it spends enough time in shyte).

Finally my authorial life has taken off and the power has shifted. I don't have to impress you because you are not my boss and.... I do not have to rely on my job for income anymore - thank goodness. The best part, which is my favourite, is I get to lead a double life knowing you have no clue how the world is reading about your dire antics... Happy days!

Thank you TEAM REBEL! It was so much fun!

Link to Ruby Allure books on Audible:

http://www.audible.com/search/ref=a_hp_tseft?advsearchKeywords=Ruby+allure&filterby=field-keywords&x=0&y=0

 

http://www.audible.com/pd/Fiction/Love-Hunt-Dating-Game-Audiobook/B015G4ICYA/ref=a_search_c4_1_1_srImg?qid=1448187651&sr=1-1

Come on admit it - as much as we deny it - we ladies like a good love hunt.

We have tick lists, ideals, and we hunt in high-heeled packs. Of course, we're all hunting for that elusive right man who ticks every box and even has tidy nostril hair. Okay maybe not you, but you know other ladies who love the hunt.

Well, it's time for Eva and Gracie to love hunt, and their "targets" are rich men - the golden sperm. Such exciting escapades would provide the pair with entertaining discussions during their dull office hours - or so they thought. What they did not anticipate was the discovery of the "booby man"; humorous but very hard truths about wealth, themselves, power; and the RichIdiot.com phenomenon.

The question remains: can love really be hunted?

 

 

http://www.audible.com/pd/Fiction/Love-Hunt-II-The-Love-Game-Audiobook/B0176Z9Y08/ref=a_search_c4_1_7_srImg?qid=1448187651&sr=1-7

The Love Hunt has returned. Gracie is back on the dating horse after a huge fall in her first tick-list-tastic love hunt.

Her new dating adventures take her and Eva into the depths of "the love game".

In the meantime, Eva, the ultimate Russian gold digger, has come to the conclusion that her poor "village idiot boyfriend" will never be enough. He will certainly not pay off her accumulating debts. She needs a rich man, and that means rich idiot dating.

In The Love Game, Eva and Gracie travel the journey of extreme love learning. On the way, they will discover their love and lust lists, their intrinsic issues, and experience some hilarious and jaw-dropping dates in pursuit of the wealthy ideal.

All of this in the pursuit of love.

The Love Hunt II is on!

The Joys of Working on Your Audio Book Creation

The Joys of Working on Your Audio Book Creation

 

Spending the evening listening to an Audio Producer transforming your written words into an audio book is a pleasure that one can be likened to the experience of first tasting chocolate. This Sunday evening I am listening to another five chapters of The Ocean Callings being made into my next audio book. That will be my final audiobook created in a year. That means eight of my books will have been taken on by audio producers and made into audiobook creations.

I have to say that I am so grateful that ACX.com exists because it enables indies and professional authors to have their books turned into audiobooks. What's more, they distribute the finished books through Amazon, Audible and ITunes. Since I am an avid audio book reader the ACX process seemed logical to me. Although, what I had not expected was how professional the audio producers were. Each have all been amazing, hard working, stuck to deadlines and all of this without the promise of an income. Why would they do that? To get good books out there and to take on projects they feel passionate about... I know - I was stunned too.

So this evening I have a nice large glass of sparkling water, a homemade choc-jack and a multitude of accents that fill The Ocean Callings. I have to say that in truth that is bliss. The funny thing about it is that tomorrow I will be back in the world of corporation where ghosts, legends and mystical stories will be replaced by mathematics, metrics and the running of a social media team. That is the reality and the publishing world for me is that beautiful escape. I have to say I love this era where one can write a book, have it published, make their own small films and reach audiences without the arduous processes that existed in the past. We really live in the instant era and for that I am grateful. Also to have drawn the attention of such talented producers is also a real joy.

If you are an indie or a professional check out ACX.com and if you want to find a producer then put your books up for audition. Who knows you may find the perfect producer to give you books audio life!

Link to ACX.Comhttps://www.acx.com/

Link to Ruby Allure books on Audible: http://www.audible.com/search/ref=a_hp_tseft?advsearchKeywords=Ruby+allure&filterby=field-keywords&x=0&y=0

A letter to all those that love to 'Take All the Credit'.

Dear 'Take all the Credit',

I have been observing your existence for a while now. You really do fascinate me because you and your type appear in most of the corporations I have worked in. You may not be aware there is a whole 'office animal' section dedicated to you. The thing is it seems that this is the time of year where you ramp up your game. I worked out why it is too. It is the end of year appraisal time and you will do whatever you need to to enable you to attain the largest bonus.

Of course you have spent the year working up to the finale by practising on various projects and discovering the best workers to take all the credit from. They are a type too: they are those who work hard and do their best and don't speak up. This may well be the 'office shafted', the 'office actual worker' or the 'office extremely efficient'.

 

The thing is my dear take all the credit is that people know who you are and discuss you. Many avoid working with you for the reason that they have been shafted by you in the past. Others have found new techniques to make sure people know they did the work. I personally embed my name on the whole document. However, I have found ways to make you look like a wombat. My favourite of late has been providing you with a presentation with completely incorrect data to make you appear a complete fool. I notice you have not approached me for anything since, so it worked! I guess that was because your name was emblazoned with big letters on the front of the presentation that you made to the Managing Directors. Woops!

 

My dear Take All the Credit is you need to be aware that I have been leading a small rebellion against all the 'take all the credits' in this world. I have seen so many decent people be trampled by your credit taking behaviour. It started small in our corporation where a number of people gave The Office Zoo book as the Secret Santa present. They highlighted the 'Office Take All the Credit' within it. I noticed you laughing all the way through the different office types until you came to the highlighted pages and glanced around the room wondering who had discovered you. We have all known it for all while and felt that you should not get away with it. We also felt you needed to know that we knew what you were up to! The thing is from shyte the beautiful flowers grow and you behaviour has united a rebellion through other offices too. You see I mentioned what my colleagues did to some of my friends and they thought it was great and did the same. I guess it could be misconstrued as some kind of bullying but taking advantage of others is also bullying too. In truth all the decent hard workers simply spoke up in a different way.

So I do want to say thank you because your office type contributed to the The Office Zoo - A Field Guide to Office Animal Observations and it would have been missing a key animal had you not demonstrated your traits so clearly. What's more, observing you and how you treat people has contributed material to the Love Hunt books, which are selling nicely. It seems people who work in offices completely identify with the antics that go on! So thank you so much for showing me all your underhand tricks for taking all the credit. Without you I would have missed out a crucial part of corporate life. So thank you and.... We all know who you are!

To hear Ray's sample on audible: http://www.audible.com/pd/Comedy/The-Office-Zoo-Audiobook/B013H90AZU/ref=a_search_c4_1_4_srTtl?qid=1448708535&sr=1-4

 

If you were an office animal, what would you be? Erm...what do you mean an office animal? Well you may not know this, but there are numerous varieties of office animal migrating to the workplace each day. Every type, with its own characteristics, is awaiting discovery in The Office Zoo. All of those who enter the office jungle on a daily basis have potential for office animal categorizing adventure. Whether we like it or not, each of us falls into one of the many office zoo categories. So which one are you? Which office animals surround you?

 

The paperback on Amazon.com: http://amzn.com/B00H7MRV5G
 

   

Alex  : "Read this. Share it. Discuss it with your friends."   -    

I’ll try to write this without spoilers or going too long winded, but the basic gist of this review is: If you are a fan of humour with a generous helping of wit and you’ve ever worked in an office, you will like listening to this!

Boy, it’s a jungle out there. If only there was a field guide with the helpful hints, tips, and ‘general don’t get yourself eaten accidentally’ advice that could help us navigate it all…well this might just be it! Office zoo reads like a Nat Geo guide or a safari special, but on the study of a species of 'animals' that you don't need to travel outside of your city to see in their natural habitat (yay!).

The book reads from point of view of an explorer, which added to the experience and immersion into the guide. The author’s tone was to me perfect for the subject matter. It took me a moment to get used to the narrator’s voice, but once I settled in I realized it was actually a good choice. The narrator reminded me so much of animal nature guide narrators, and that definitely put my brain right in the action, and I had no trouble visualizing the office beings that the author was so helpfully describing.

Despite it being in the humour category, there were quite a number of valuable lessons presented, albeit some slightly over emphasized - the better for us to recognize and work to correct them. If only all company welcome packages included certain snippets of this with the avalanche of company policies - if not only to show that humour is not dead in the office world, but so that people would have a much more enjoyable (and more memorable) reminder to be aware of how they engage with others in the office. We spend so much of our lives in offices (unless you are an actual safari guide, professional base jumper, or something equally office-free), a guide is definitely needed.

There are some characters that were rather harshly covered, but these are made in ‘lemme tell it to you straight’ tone, so it fit with the narrative of the book. Near the end of the book a few of the character’s seemed repeated, or at least very similar to those described in the beginning of the book (granted a I listened to the whole book in one shot, so it may be better to listen to the chapters in segments).There was a weird thing with the recording on my device where all of a sudden it sounded like the narrator teleported to an echo-y tunnel right in the middle of a chapter. I got over it, but it is jarring.

I went into this book expecting to be entertained. I was. But it also got me thinking about my everyday environment in a different way. A humorous take on office culture and a well spent afternoon! I will look up the author’s other work.

 

http://www.audible.com/pd/Fiction/Love-Hunt-Dating-Game-Audiobook/B015G4ICYA/ref=a_search_c4_1_1_srImg?qid=1448187651&sr=1-1

Come on admit it - as much as we deny it - we ladies like a good love hunt.

We have tick lists, ideals, and we hunt in high-heeled packs. Of course, we're all hunting for that elusive right man who ticks every box and even has tidy nostril hair. Okay maybe not you, but you know other ladies who love the hunt.

Well, it's time for Eva and Gracie to love hunt, and their "targets" are rich men - the golden sperm. Such exciting escapades would provide the pair with entertaining discussions during their dull office hours - or so they thought. What they did not anticipate was the discovery of the "booby man"; humorous but very hard truths about wealth, themselves, power; and the RichIdiot.com phenomenon.

The question remains: can love really be hunted?

 

 

http://www.audible.com/pd/Fiction/Love-Hunt-II-The-Love-Game-Audiobook/B0176Z9Y08/ref=a_search_c4_1_7_srImg?qid=1448187651&sr=1-7

The Love Hunt has returned. Gracie is back on the dating horse after a huge fall in her first tick-list-tastic love hunt.

Her new dating adventures take her and Eva into the depths of "the love game".

In the meantime, Eva, the ultimate Russian gold digger, has come to the conclusion that her poor "village idiot boyfriend" will never be enough. He will certainly not pay off her accumulating debts. She needs a rich man, and that means rich idiot dating.

In The Love Game, Eva and Gracie travel the journey of extreme love learning. On the way, they will discover their love and lust lists, their intrinsic issues, and experience some hilarious and jaw-dropping dates in pursuit of the wealthy ideal.

All of this in the pursuit of love.

The Love Hunt II is on!



Chocolate and Other Baking Experiments

Chocolate and Other Baking Experiments

 

 

Well you would think you could leave what appears to be chocolate biscuits on your desk without them being abducted. Oh no... Not in my work place. So what happened? Two of the naughty boys I work with spotted a Tupperware box filled with biscuity creations on my desk. Of course they thought they would nab one while I was at the drinks machine.

Please note I had not mentioned I had made biscuits to share. I had not offered these biscuits and I certainly thought that no one would nab a biscuit. So when I returned from filling my water bottle I discovered my manager and one colleague guzzling water and coughing. They pair had bitten into my chilli-based creations and had the hottest shock of their lives. Now what do you do with that?
The pair had been caught red-mouthed swiping my chilli chocolate biscuits. What was the result? Well I was banned from baking by my team. Was that fair? On the bright side it meant that I had more opportunity to eat my own special chocolate creations without having to share.

So today was a momentous day... I made raw chocolate. The reason that I made it myself is because I wanted to eat coconut virgin oil and make the stuff taste nice. To me taste nice is different to most people because I don't eat sugar anymore. With that in mind, I knew I wanted chocolate but without sugar. I came up with using either date syrup or maple syrup or stevia.

 

So the chocolate is made like this:
Please note there are no measures because I am experimental.
Coconut virgin oil - quite a few lumps.
Macca powder (apparently is should be lacuma powder but I didn't have any)
Date syrup  or maple syrup to sweeten
Pure cocoa powder.

I am sure you are wondering how these creations came about: I melted the coconut oil in a pan and experimentally added everything else. I then spooned them into the chocolate shaping tray and messed up most of my kitchen! Amazing. I had quite a lot of mixture left so I added in oats to make them into choc-jacks rather than flap-jacks. I hope this experiment inspires you and since the creations are somewhat experimental (as with all of my cooking) that is the best direction that I can provide.

Here is how they look:

Well I have to say that I was very pleased with the outcome; however,  I may well have offended the people I offered them to. Admittedly I work on a different team now, although my notorious baking reputation follows me  thanks to my manager. Incidentally he will not try any of my food explorations anymore - he said he was chilli-scarred for life!

I just want to add that I am no cook. I make experimental creations because I decided not to eat sugar, cut out diary and have stopped the gluten. When you stand in a supermarket and look at the choices then you realise you may well become creative to find ways to know what is residing within in your food.

Coming into Being

Coming Into Being

 

Over the last couple of days I have had some time to reflect and have read numerous healing posts about all the things we need to do to 'fix' ourselves. I have also just read a book called The Untethered Soul, which is an absolutely awesome book. At the same time I have been witnessing numerous people working through their 'stuff'. Now what I find fascinating is what is this 'stuff?' that one has to work through? For some it is repeat patterns, for others it is suppressed emotions and for others it attempting to unite the fragments of a shattered self. For so many it is no easy task; however, why does it have to be so hard? Why do we feel that we are broken and need to be fixed? There must be an easy way...

What I find  most fascinating is people are attempting to fix themselves without a model of what works. How will you know when you are fixed? Do you really expect a luminous moment where the heavens open and you are given a gold star? What's more, there are so many iconic personalities that are suggested role models; however, many of them are broken or have been broken and it is their imperfections that have driven them. Also have you noticed how many ways you can be fixed? There are so many people lined up offering solutions in exchange for cash. Your flaws are a financial money making machine for others. At the same time these fixers are suggesting they have the secret to inner unison. Some of these are helpful but the expert on you is you. There are people who can apply models of theory to you to help you wade through what you are not aware of. Yet again you go to someone saying you are broken and you need help to be fixed. Often this 'fixing' opens a can of multi-headed fixing worms.

So you may wonder where this is going. Well I have been watching numerous people struggle with themselves, to fix, to eradicate, to let go of.  They seem to be desperate to change who they are. Yet their personality is who they are. The irony is they are perfect as they are. Yet they chase an invisible ideal that is unattainable and people keep making money from them with offerings of insights. What makes it worse is they will be fixed in the future - when something changes. You are never fixed now. This is what gets me about it... Why indulge in years of endless turmoil to determine what is wrong with you? It is wonderful to be reflective, it is excellent to address your fears and walk through your inner fire but when does it stop? There seems to be a new development within the healing realm where people actively indulge in an inner struggle to be spiritually superior to others. I have waded through more than you... I have dealt with more shit than you... Who cares? What you are is what you are. Live your precious life and appreciate it.

Now admittedly there are layers to the person and we do not get to experience all of who we are. Also there are parts of ourselves that we do not like such as the archetypes of the prostitute, the deviant, the victim or the thief and those parts of ourselves become suppressed and sit in dark mental vaults gaining power. They are like neglected children and attention seek in whatever way they can to draw your attention. To unite these parts they need to be accepted and recognised. This comes through self love and lack of judgement and sitting in a space with them. They do not need to be fixed they just need to be recognised, accepted and loved. It is the same with emotions. Allow yourself time to feel and process the emotions. Sit with the emotions, feel them accept them and allow them to be recognised. Once you essentially realise these are parts of the layers of self you can then move into the 'you space' and this is the calm observer who sits beyond your thoughts. The real you.  It is an expansive space of calm. When you move into this space you are able to observe the inner chatter and commentary. There is a deep silence beyond the thoughts, the mind and the chatter. That is the real you.  When you find this silence you have the capacity to come into being. To be rather than fixing. It is in this state that you realise that nothing really matters other than living your life. Mastery is loving the life you have and allowing it to unfold. Every experience is simply an experience whether it is positive or negative. What's more, you realise how trivial all our struggles are when you realise we will all die. When you accept that you are walking into life half way through the show and you will be leaving before it is complete then your decision making is quite different. How would you behave if you knew this was your last week on the planet? I don't think that you would be so terribly concerned by trivialities would you? You wouldn't be desperately trying to fix yourself. You would be focused on living every perfect moment!

Well I hope this gives you some perspective and helps you come into being.